Comments on: The Ones We Leave Behind http://realmental.org/archives/1264 RealMental is a safe community where you can share and learn about mental health and everything that goes along with it. Fri, 16 Jul 2010 02:50:10 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0 By: Roman http://realmental.org/archives/1264/comment-page-1#comment-8428 Roman Fri, 26 Feb 2010 18:58:00 +0000 http://realmental.org/?p=1264#comment-8428 Great post. I can totally relate. My family was exactly the same way. My own parents (extremely abusive) had that whole "what's wrong" thing down pat, and unfortunately, it has become pervasive throughout our society, a form of histrionic behavior. When I meet someone who uses that word, I run. I found you can never reason with these people. I made a momentous decision: I stopped all communication with parents, siblings (except one). The false guilt I felt has subsided. Best move I ever made. I owe them nothing. Best of luck to you. Great post. I can totally relate. My family was exactly the same way. My own parents (extremely abusive) had that whole “what’s wrong” thing down pat, and unfortunately, it has become pervasive throughout our society, a form of histrionic behavior. When I meet someone who uses that word, I run.

I found you can never reason with these people. I made a momentous decision: I stopped all communication with parents, siblings (except one). The false guilt I felt has subsided. Best move I ever made. I owe them nothing. Best of luck to you.

]]> By: Nikki Z http://realmental.org/archives/1264/comment-page-1#comment-8367 Nikki Z Thu, 28 Jan 2010 17:19:37 +0000 http://realmental.org/?p=1264#comment-8367 Thank you for the great post. I can relate in so many ways. However, I have never had to deal with someone else's loss to suicide. That must be a really profound experience. I have never talked about my depression or suicidal thoughts to anyone that I am close too. My dr. is the only one who knows. When I think about running my car into a tree, or just wishing that the semi-truck would run the red light and hit me, I think about my kids. I think about how fucked up their lives would be if their mom committed suicide. Even though I sometimes wonder if my death would be better than being raised by a crazy mom who does not give them the care and attention that they deserve. See, I can write this comment that will be read by people that I don't know, but I could never say anthing like this to my mother or my husband or even my friends (the few that I still have). Thank you for the sharing the great post. Thank you for the great post. I can relate in so many ways. However, I have never had to deal with someone else’s loss to suicide. That must be a really profound experience. I have never talked about my depression or suicidal thoughts to anyone that I am close too. My dr. is the only one who knows. When I think about running my car into a tree, or just wishing that the semi-truck would run the red light and hit me, I think about my kids. I think about how fucked up their lives would be if their mom committed suicide. Even though I sometimes wonder if my death would be better than being raised by a crazy mom who does not give them the care and attention that they deserve.

See, I can write this comment that will be read by people that I don’t know, but I could never say anthing like this to my mother or my husband or even my friends (the few that I still have).

Thank you for the sharing the great post.

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